Anger Management
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More often than not, anger outbursts cause hurt and pain. Anger can be felt emotionally or physically, by words or gestures, by silent treatment and actions. This can result in pushing away the very people we love and want to be close too. Anger and stress can cause ill health and gets in the way of happiness and success. It is difficult to be happy when you are angry. Anger management is about gaining self-awareness and recognising anger triggers. It is also about developing skills in situations to develop self-control and self-mastery. This will result in being able to choose how you react and deal with a tricky or anger provoking event. It feels good to be able to choose what you say or do rather than be controlled by a negative situation. It is a sign of Mana to react in a more positive manner. It is a strength to be able to manage the deep emotions welling up inside of you. Being able to have control of yourself can be very hard but it is also very rewarding. Self-control builds self-esteem and can develop towards feeling closer to our loved ones. This is better than the tension that would otherwise be there. There are many causes of anger but often the main triggering factors can be frustration and confusion, a perceived lack of respect, or something seems unfair or unjust. Often underlying is the fear of being rejected, fear of feeling inadequate and the fear of being alone and unwanted. People with anger issues are often living close to the boil-over point. They believe that they swing from calm to explosive in seconds. A person may have been living with anxiety and stress for a prolonged period of time, developing a false sense of normality. With the tools of anger management in place an opportunity is created to live with a sense of calm, self-control and awareness. It is not until we start feeling better and calmer that we realise how stressed and anxious we once were. Anger management covers the following Engaging in a client counsellor relationship. Exploring the goals you would like to achieve. Recognising the signs of anger. Developing a safety plan to keep yourself and everyone safe. Scaling the intensity of anger from 1 to 10 so you know when to take action to stop the anger escalating. Increasing awareness of the feelings and body signs when beginning to get angry so as to have control on how you react. Noticing thoughts and beliefs. Changing thinking and beliefs into more positive possibilities. Managing stress to have a better life balance. Learning calming down techniques to be more relaxed. Building self-confidence. Definition of violence within the law and the wide spectrum of society’s beliefs and expectations. Understanding the dynamics of power and control at home and work. Getting to know your own power and control tactics and the effects this has on others. Effects of upbringing on our attitudes and beliefs and choosing healthy attitudes and beliefs for the life you want. Communicating better and negotiating conflict for a solution were everyone wins and is happy. Improving relationships and connecting more closely with others Being a parent and role model in today’s world. Finding support networks to keep achieving your goals and the life you want. I have 10 years’ experience working with men and women with anger issues (for children and young persons with anger issues please refer to “child centred play therapy” page). I also have experience working with mens issues and running mens groups and anger management groups. Contact me if you would like to manage your emotions and have more meaningful closer relationships. With hard work and commitment it can happen. |